Feeling our Childhood Anger is more important than you think.

I’ve written a list of reasons why it's essential to acknowledge and feel the childlike (from childhood) anger towards our parents as adults:

1. Unprocessed Emotions Stay Stuck.

As children, we often suppress anger toward our parents to maintain attachment and survival. These emotions don't disappear; they become stored in our bodies and influence our behaviors and relationships. Feeling and processing this anger now allows us to release what’s been buried, creating space for emotional growth and better relationships.

2. The Child’s Anger Is Valid

Anger is a natural response to unmet needs or injustices, and most adult anger is the manifestation from the child you. Acknowledging this validates the child's experience, (your own inner child) helping to heal the wounded part of you, that is held back in their expression and joy for life.

Realising we have childhood anger doesn't mean blaming parents endlessly, it means being able to honour the feelings that were once silenced, and to acknowledge there were obvious unfair mistreatment from your caregivers, that resulted in suppressed anger.

3. Reclaiming Authenticity

Suppressed anger often leads to people-pleasing, perfectionism, or over-responsibility in adulthood, just as much as the negative traits we see today. Feeling the anger, healthily, as adults - in a childlike manner - helps us reclaim our right to go after what we want, express needs without expectations or projections, and live authentically.

4. Breaking Generational Cycles

By addressing our childhood anger, in a childlike expression, literally experiencing it as it was supposed to have been experienced, in a safe way now, we avoid unconsciously passing it on to our children or projecting it onto others.

It interrupts harmful patterns, fostering healthier relationships and emotional resilience in future generations.

5. Integrating the Inner Child

Healing involves embracing all parts of ourselves, including the child who felt hurt, abandoned, or misunderstood, how does the little you really feel? How can you let her/him fully express that feeling?

This integration helps us feel whole and more connected to our emotions, creativity, and joy.

6. Transforming Relationships with Parents

Feeling and processing the anger doesn’t mean cutting off from parents. If healthily expressed and without the temptation to receive anything from them in return, it can often lead to a healthier, more realistic understanding of them. It allows us to see them as flawed humans, not idols or villains, eventually fostering forgiveness or acceptance.

7. Physical and Emotional Well-being

Suppressed anger can manifest as anxiety, depression, or physical ailments. Acknowledging it helps reduce these burdens and supports overall well-being. “You have a right to feel this way.”

8. Accessing Childlike Joy and Freedom

By addressing the shadow side of our childhood, we free ourselves to reconnect with the light spontaneity, curiosity, and wonder of our inner child. Feeling our anger creates emotional balance, allowing for deeper joy as you take off the wounded parts that were not meant to be held in your body for so long.

There are many tools we can use to help heal and reclaim our inner child, and the adult we are now becoming as a result.

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